If you’ve been paying attention, you’ve already read my post about the things every white guy should not do to his Asian girlfriend. That post was more about general relationship things, not so much about the sexual side of the relationship. This one’s going to be a little bit different! If you’ve been waiting for me to expand a bit more sexually on that post that I wrote so long ago, this is your lucky day because I’m about to give you a detailed lesson ways to keep your Japanese girlfriend happy in bed.
I’ve been dating Japanese women for all of my adult life, and as a matter fact I have been married to a Japanese woman for the past 10 years.
I am a Caucasian guy born and raised in the mid western United States, so it goes without saying that my wife and I share two completely different cultures and more often than not it’s a struggle trying to make compromises to keep each other happy. But we manage to do it and it’s been a very good relationship so far.
Believe it or not, the area which we seem to be on the same page the most is in the bedroom. It’s probably because there’s very little talking involved, so there’s no chance of either of us saying something that the other doesn’t understand because it’s culturally opposite to what we know.
I’m telling you, Japanese and US culture is completely opposite from one another and I could write an entire post about the struggles my wife and I have your daily lives trying to mix the two. That a topic for another post, for now, let’s get back to the bedroom.
3 things every white guy must do to keep Japanese women happy in bed
1. Don’t be so aggressive
It goes without saying that most white guys grew up watching nothing but western pornography which consists of things like gang rape, anal, choking, and lots of slapping. Of course you’ll find all those kinds of things in Japanese porn as well, but it’s much harder to find and it’s definitely not mainstream.
What I’m trying to say is that western sex culture and Japanese sex culture is completely opposite, and you’re not going to get very far if you grab your Japanese girlfriend by the arm with force and tell her (with an angry voice) that you’re going fuck the shit out of her.
Japanese sex is generally slower and more respectful of one another, which to me, can be just as hot (if not hotter) than aggressive intercourse. If you’re throwing her around and being overly forceful with her body, she’s not going to enjoy it and the chances of you getting the chance to be with her again will be slim to none.
2. Pheromones work with Japanese women
For those of you unfamiliar with pheromones, they are chemical scents that can trigger a response in members of the opposite sex. They are not drugs, and they are 100% natural and legal. From all the evidence that I have seen, they work. More interestingly, based on what I’ve heard, pheromones work with Japanese women particularly well.
I hadn’t even heard of pheromones while I was single and dating, it wasn’t until after I was married that I had first learned about how effective they are. I still have a lot of single friends (caucasian men) who are actively dating and swear by the use of pheromones. They are extremely easy (and cheap) to get online.
True Pheromones is one of the most established and highly-respected online distributors of pheromones. They offer a wide variety of all-natural products that will:
- Make your natural scent more attractive to women
- Help you to be more confident
- Heighten your sexual encounters
- Positively affect your day-to-day interactions with those around you
And just to reiterate – NO, these are not date rape drugs. Pheromones are scents that you place on your own body (like cologne) which will naturally attract and stimulate the senses of those around you. They’ve been used for centuries by both men and women all over the world, and are proven to work. My single white guy friends say that they are essential tool to attract Japanese women, and I’m a bit bummed that I’m not single anymore. Because lord knows I needed all the help I could get…
3. Even though she says yes, she might be saying no
This is the biggest thing that I struggle with as a white man living with a Japanese woman. Japanese culture is so different from my own, and for me, saying “no” is something that I don’t even hesitate with. I’m not afraid to say it.
My wife on the other hand, is often afraid to say no and it stems directly from her Japanese culture. The Japanese are more respectful of one another than Americans are, and saying no is often seen as something very negative. That’s why I couldn’t believe it the first time we had sex and she said “yes” to everything that I asked if she wanted to try.
It’s not like I was asking for really kinky stuff or anything, but she’s very shy and timid in daily life, and she had no problem going with the flow and agreeing to anything that I suggested in bed.
Of course it wasn’t until about a year later (when I knew her personality in and out) that I knew that all of those “yes’s” mostly meant “no’s”. She was just being polite, and thinking back on it, I feel really bad for the things I asked her to do.
The bottom line is to be respectful of her culture and to know that just because she says yes, doesn’t mean that she’s totally into it. The look on her face and/or the tension of her body should speak volumes, and if you’re not sure that she’s totally into whatever it is that you’re suggesting, back off.
As a western guy who has dated Asian women his entire adult life, being with an Asian women is ironically one of the most difficult things that I’ve ever done. Women are very emotional creatures, and combine that with a culture that is very different from your Western culture, it can create some very difficult and awkward situations – situations that can be avoided if you just take the time to understand how to avoid them.
DougMy name is Doug, and I'm an ordinary white guy living in the US. 10 years ago I married a Japanese woman that I met online, and it's been an adventure to say the least! I started AsiaGraphix.com as a way to share all the lessons I've learned about dating (and ultimately marrying) an Asian woman.
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