3 very good reasons why you should date a white guy

By Doug •  4 min read

Now that I’ve written some compelling reasons for the white guys to date Asian women, it’s time to turn the tables around and trying convincing you Asian ladies why it’s so great to date a western (white) men. I’m going to try and write this as objectively as I can since I am a white guy myself and I don’t want this to sound like I’m only writing this for my own good. There are some really good reasons to date white guys – I promise you that. I’m not just writing this because I think so highly of myself.

I would like to point out, especially for you women born and raised in Japan and Korea, dating a white guy from anywhere else in the world could be a jarring experience if you aren’t prepared for it. The rest of the world isn’t so modest and respectful as your culture, so be prepared for that when you’re ready to start seeking a relationship with a western man. He will be a bit louder than you’re expecting. He won’t be so modest. And he might use a bit more sarcasm in his tone than you’re used to hearing. But once you get past these cultural differences, you may find the experience of dating caucasian men to be a refreshing and exciting change.

Here are three really good reasons for Asian women to date white guys:

1). Dating a western man will expose (and condition) you to the western world.

I realize this might not be an important thing for some women, but those with an adventurous spirit and a desire to learn and grow will gain a lot by dating a white man from a western country. It’s a big world out there – a world dominated by western cultures (whether we like to admit it or not), so getting acquainted with those cultures and ways of life is often seen as a way to grow both personally and professionally.

2). Dating a western man will teach you how to be a stronger woman.

Before you bash me for calling all Asain women weak, please note that I realize that isn’t true. I’ve known some pretty strong (mentally and physically) women from all parts of Asia, but I think you’d have to agree with me that on average, Asian women are not as strong as their western counterparts. This isn’t a bad thing – as a matter of fact, I personally find the modesty and respectful demeanor of most Asian women to be quite attractive. As a matter of fact, that’s exactly why I started dating Asian women in the first place. All I’m trying to say is that western cultures are generally more aggressive, and being around a western man and getting to know his ways can be quite beneficial to any Asian woman wanting to become a stronger person.

3). You will have the opportunity to make him a better person.

Let’s face it – western men are generally pretty rough around the edges. I should know…I’m one of them. We aren’t as polite as we should be, we don’t respect others enough, and we don’t take the time to appreciate the little things in life. We are far from perfect, and I believe that every single one of us has a desire inside to learn how to be better in every way possible. Your Asian culture is what we need to see how bad some of our western habits really are, and we need you to show us how we can do things better. Remember not to push us too hard though (no man likes a nagging girlfriend) – but gently guiding us in the right direction is something we can all benefit from.

If you’ve never dated a white guy before, there’s no better time to give it a try. Online dating makes this very easy, and if you are living in a western country already, it’s even easier. Don’t be afraid – reach out and see what you find. It’ll likely be unlike any other relationship you’ve had in your life thus far, but it may be the most satisfying based on how different the experience will be.


My name is Doug, and I'm an ordinary white guy living in the US. 10 years ago I married a Japanese woman that I met online, and it's been an adventure to say the least! I started AsiaGraphix.com as a way to share all the lessons I've learned about dating (and ultimately marrying) an Asian woman.