3 very good reasons why you should date an Asian woman

By Doug •  4 min read

Speaking from my own experience as a white guy born and raised in the midwestern US, becoming attracted to Asian women for the first time when I was in my early 20’s was probably the best thing that ever happened to my love life. Up until that point in my life, I had never dated anyone but caucasian women and I can honestly say that I hadn’t had a single relationship that I would have considered entirely satisfying. I think the biggest problem for me was that I have a bit of a shy and introverted personality, which doesn’t seem to be attractive to a majority of western women. The white girls like white boys who are strong and daring, and unfortunately, I don’t think I had either of those traits as I was growing up. Yeah, it was a awkward childhood, and I’ve got some pretty deep scars from relationships gone horribly wrong.

But at 22, I found my attraction weaning towards the far east, where the women were beautiful, respectful, and appreciated guys like me who were anything but macho. Now before I go any further, I think it’s important to note that I’m not saying that all western woman are crude and disrespectful – I’m simply speaking about averages here. The average Asian woman is different than the average caucasian woman. I don’t think anyone can disagree with me on that.

Here then, based on my own personal experiences, are 3 reasons why I think you white guys should date an Asian woman:

You will be loved for who you are – not what you look like

As I mentioned above, “macho” (big muscles, MMA-type, etc) is not such an attractive thing for most Asian women. Sure, all women would like their men to be strong, but that means different things in different parts of the world. Most guys here in the US think that hitting they gym will give them a better chance of being noticed by the ladies. In Asia, it’s the boyish-looking bookworm who’s more likely to be noticed.

You will be respected

When it comes to honor and respect for others, there’s really no comparison between the US / Europe and Asia. Asian cultures are built around respect and appreciation for others, and being kind and giving is simply a way of life. If you are tired of western woman not giving you the respect you deserve, go out and date an Asian woman or two – it will totally change your perception on what love and sharing really is.

You will get to travel and experience new cultures

Ok, I know this one seems a bit odd, but it remains to this day as one of my top reasons for wanting to date women from Asia. I hadn’t traveled very much in the first 22 years of my life, but my mind was blown the first time I set foot outside the US. The reason for that trip was to visit a girl, and well…let’s just say that sparked a lifelong passion for travel and immersing myself in new and different cultures. If you meet an Asian woman online, you will likely be traveling to visit her and her family on a semi-frequent basis. If you have a passion for this kind of travel and a very open mind, this will become a very nice benefit of seeking love outside the borders of your own country.

There are a lot of other really good reasons to find your soulmate somewhere in the heart of Asia, but these are the top three based on my 20-year experience of dating Asian women. Your own results my vary, but I’m willing to bet that you’ll discover the same things I have – and maybe a few of your own based on the type of woman you find.


Doug is just an ordinary white guy living in the midwestern United States. He's been married to an amazing Japanese woman since 2010, and has created AsiaGraphix.com to share his experiences with international dating and marriage (the good and the bad),