The best place to meet Asian women is actually closer than you think

By Doug •  14 min read

Meeting people is hard – especially if you’re trying to find companionship from the opposite sex. It’s even more difficult if you prefer women from Asia but you’re not even remotely Asian. In that case, where exactly is the best place to meet Asian women if you don’t live in an Asian country? To help make your life easier, here is a list of places where you will find the most success:

I’m going to explain each of these in more detail below. And if none of these are applicable to you, don’t worry. I will also be breaking down very specific scenarios for different situations. The truth is that none of the things I listed above is absolutely required to meet a really great Asian woman.

All you need is the drive and the determination to make it happen, and you will find success. Trust me on that. Follow along as I break this down into ultra specific categories with detailed instructions on what to do…

These are the best places to meet Asian women if…

The world is an incredibly big place, and what might work for a guy looking for an Asian girlfriend in the United States isn’t going to work for somebody in India (generally speaking).

Not only that, guys are very different from one another. Some are just looking for a one night stand. Others are looking for a more meaningful and long lasting relationship. No matter which camp you’re in, it’s not as difficult as you might think to find exactly what you’re looking for. All it takes is a little persistence – and a lot of patience.

The best place to meet Asian women for a one night stand

Considering that the AsiaGraphix audience is primarily male, it only seems right to kick this off with instructions on how to meet an Asian girl for a sexual fling. I’d wager that is what most guys are looking for.

If this is all you want, by far and away the best way to make this happen is to hop on a plane, go to Asia, and pay for it. Red light districts and escorts are common in many places in Asia (except in northern Asian countries such as Korea and Japan), and you might as well just do that if you don’t want to waste any time.

Shanghai street scene

If paying for companionship isn’t your thing, all I can say is this: you better be one charming dude if you are looking for Asian women for one night stands in your home country. No, it’s not impossible, but you’re not going to have anywhere near the success that you would if you just got on a plane and went to Asia and paid for it.

The best place to meet Asian women for a long term relationship

Again, (and I think it’s going to be common for nearly every category): you should just go to Asia. There’s simply no substitute for being there and meeting women in person.

If travel is not an option for you, your next best bet will be the online dating thing. As a reminder, eHarmony is a fantastic place to start looking for an Asian girlfriend. Although I took the time to write an entire article explaining how eHarmony is the best website for meeting older Thai women, the fact of the matter is that it’s probably the best website for meeting all types of Asian women.

The key takeaway is this: Randomly approaching a cute girl at the coffee shop just because you think she’s pretty isn’t likely to go as far as if you met her doing something you both enjoy doing.

The best place to meet Asian women if you don’t live in a big city

At the risk of sounding like a broken record, travel (and online dating) is pretty much your only options here. Set up a profile on several different dating sites, and let them come to you.

You’ll be very disappointed if you spend your days messaging all the women that look interesting to you. These women are getting hundreds of messages a day from guys who are more charming and better looking than you, so don’t even waste your time with that. Just have some patience. You’re very likely going to get messages in your inbox without even trying.

And even though I mentioned above that using social media to meet Asian women isn’t a good idea, it might be in this case. If you truly live way out in the middle of nowhere and there are no Asians at all in your general vicinity, adding social media to your quiver might make sense – if you do it correctly.

If you need a little help, be sure to read my guide about how to meet Asian women on Instagram. My guide for meeting Asian women on Twitter will be helpful as well.

Speaking of social media itself, you might want to check out WeChat. For those that don’t know, WeChat is China’s version of Facebook. Not only that, it’s a very popular social networking at all across Asia, and as long as you’re not creepy and aggressive, it shouldn’t be all that difficult to meet Asian women there.

Just be careful and take things slow. Just as it is on Facebook, women aren’t necessarily there to meet guys. It’s just social networking for them. It’s a tool to keep in touch with family, friends, and business associates. Tread lightly.

The best place to meet Asian women if you do live in a big city

The best ways to meet Asian girls in big cities are nearly unlimited. Consider yourself lucky that you live in a very large population center, as you will have far more opportunities to mingle compared to someone who lives way out in the boonies.

School (or classes) of any kind is probably the best place to meet women from Asia outside the Asian continent itself. You can also find opportunities by:

The best place to meet Asian women if all you’re looking for is a penpal

If you’re not completely serious about getting into a deep relationship, and all you’re looking for is a friend, you’re in luck. JapanGuide is a really great place to meet Japanese people who looking looking for international friends.

It’s not a dating site, and you will be quickly run off and/or banned from it if you treat it as such. However, it’s one of the best places on the Internet to find Asian friends – and it’s a really good place to start if you’re just getting into meeting people online.

The top five non-Asian cities to meet Asian women

I’ve been traveling all over the world for 20 years now, and I’ve seen quite a bit. From Asia to Europe to North America South America and everything in between, I think I’ve got a pretty good sense of what this world is like and what’s happening where.

Now, I’m not saying that I am an expert in all things related to geography and the cultures of the world, but I have been around and I’d like to think that I’ve learned a thing or two from my extensive travels.

Well, I’ve got good news for you – I can think of several right off the top of my head that might surprise you, which I know for a fact is what all of you white men out there looking for a relationship with an Asian woman (and Asian women who are looking for a relationship with a white man) want to hear. It’s not always necessary to start your search in Asia!

1. San Francisco

OK, I’ll totally admit that this was the obvious first choice, but it’s the first choice for a reason! The Asian population in San Francisco is the most dense in the US, and therefore it’s the place to be in the United States if you are a white man looking to meet an Asian woman without going online.

Take a walk down any major street in the city of San Francisco, and if you were dropped there blindfolded without having any idea where you were at, chances are pretty good that you would guess “Asia”.

Not only does the city of San Francisco have one of the highest Asian populations in United States, it’s also one of the top destinations in the US for Asian tourists. Therefore, whereever you go in the city, you will see in nearly 1:1 ratio of Asian to Caucasian people. If you’re a white guy in the US who’s having it difficult to find a time or resources to go to Asia, San Francisco is your best bet by far.

2. Vancouver Canada

Now, I’ll fully admit that this one shocked me as well. I’ve always known that Canada as a whole is very popular with Asians (both as a place to live as well as a place to visit), mostly due to how easy it is to enter Canada compared to the United States.

Asians looking for a North American experience find it much easier to enter Canada than they do to enter the US, so it’s no surprise that any major city in Canada is popular with Asian people.

However, thanks to being situated right along the West Coast, Vancouver is simply on another level. In a recent visit, I couldn’t believe the number of Asian people from all regions that I saw (Korea, Japan, China, Thailand, Philippines, etc.). San Francisco is the only other city in the world I found that rivals Vancouver in terms of beautiful Asian women walking the streets and I’d recommend it to any white guy anywhere in the world.

3. Reykjavik, Iceland

Yup, I can totally hear you slapping your forehead in amazement, and I don’t blame you. You weren’t expecting Reykjavik as being a place to find beautiful Asian women walking the streets, were you? Now, I do need to clarify that “walking the streets” does not mean that there are Asian prostitutes on every street corner.

What I mean is that Iceland is a very popular tourist destination for Asians, and you might be amazed with the density of Asian population here at any given time.

It was hard to put my finger on what Asian countries were the most represented in Reykjavik, but based on my brief experience there I would have to say that it was mostly Asians from Northern countries such as Japan and Korea. I guess it kind of makes sense because I can’t imagine people from southern Asian countries such as Thailand and Singapore wanting to visit a cold place. I’m sure it happens, but it’s probably not all that common.

4. London England

I’m not totally sure what it is about London that attracts Asian people so much, but every time I go there I’m just amazed at the number of Asian tourists I see up and down every street. I’ve also been told by some of my Asian women friends in the past that most Asian women find Harry Potter extremely attractive and that’s part of the lure of England.

London also happens to be the place where most Asians think of when want to experience a place where English is the primary language. At least that’s what I’ve been told.

Of course I can be totally way off on that comment, but it seems to be something I’ve heard over and over again and I guess I’m believing it to be true. So – for all of you white guys in Europe looking for the highest population of Asian women closest to you, it’s definitely London.

5. Toronto Canada

Everything that I said about Vancouver just a few paragraphs above is the same for Toronto. As a whole, Canada seems to be the place where most Asians tend to end up in North America, and I’ve been told by several guys in Toronto that it’s a hotbed of activity and they have no problem meeting Asian women they’re attracted to.

As a fun experiment, next time you’re talking to an Asian woman, ask her about the last time that she has been in Toronto. Chances are really good that she’s been there before, and I’ve only met but a few Asian women who have never been to the place at all.

Final things to keep in mind about meeting Asian women in all parts of the world

I still fully believe that if you’re a white man looking to meet an Asian woman, your best bet is to go to Asia in the first place. Yes, it’s totally possible to meet Asian women (tourists and locals) in other parts of the world, but your chances will be much higher simply due to how to dense most of Asia is.

And considering the fact that most all women there are Asian, well, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that Asia is the place to be if you are a white guy with a preference for Asian women.

On the flipside, think how much of a good impression you can make on an Asian woman who is visiting a country for the first time and is looking for help from locals (like you) to learn the place and figure out what to see and do.

Make an effort to be involved in activities which helps tourists such as these (as a tour guide or a participant in some other type of tourist business catering to Asians) and it won’t be long until you’ll be making new friends.


Doug is just an ordinary white guy living in the midwestern United States. He's been married to an amazing Japanese woman since 2010, and has created to share his experiences with international dating and marriage (the good and the bad),

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