Sometimes I feel like I was born at the wrong time. I just missed out on having the internet becoming mainstream while I was still in school, and I am so envious of kids today who don’t have to go to the library and slog though volumes of encyclopedias to do research for their school projects. I graduated college in 1996, and it was right about then that the internet was starting to grab hold and change the world.
Porn was obviously one of the first industries to go digital, but it did take a few years for major businesses to see the potential of the internet. Online dating started becoming a thing by 1998 or so – it was then that I remember meeting my first Asian woman online.
Her name was Akiko, and she was from Nagoya Japan. We met on Yahoo Personals, and from what I can recall, we exchanged email once a week or so. Our communication wasn’t all that frequent but it was still very exciting to me at the time.
I knew right away that this was a revolutionary way to meet women. Finally, shy guys like me had a chance! I wonder whatever happened to Akiko? Last I heard from her (way back in ’98), she told me she was coming to the US to meet several of the men she met online – and she wanted to see me as well. She was husband shopping, and that freaked me out. I didn’t even respond and we lost touch forever,
Fast forward to current times, and social media has taken over our lives whether we like to admit it or not. Meeting people online is SO easy now – and you don’t even need to sign up for a dating site like JapanCupid or KoreanCupid to meet that Asian woman of your dreams. Of course you’ll likely have more success signing up with a dating site and meeting women that way, since everyone there is looking for love. Not everyone on social media is available and looking.
Instagram is my favorite social media platform at the moment, primarily because I am a highly visual person and I have a passion for photography. I’m happily married to a wonderful Japanese woman at the moment and I’m not looking to meet other women, but…wow. There are so many Asian women on Instagram that I cry a little inside and wish I had this tool available to me when I was still single.
How to meet Asian girls on Instagram
Instagram is a great way to get to know someone due to how visual of a social media platform it is, and a quick scroll of someones feed will tell you a lot more about that person than you could ever hope to decipher though an ad on an online dating site. It’s so easy to find someone attractive to you (not just in looks, but in lifestyle as well), and I know I could have done well meeting Asian women here when I was still single.
Instagram users come from all over the world, and it’s particular popular with women in Japan and Korea. Especially Korea, as women’s fashion and style is a huge part of the culture – there are so many beautiful Korean woman posting adorably cute selfies that you won’t have to spend a lot of time to find them. Search for the hashtag “#귀엽다” and go from there.
White guys: it helps if you can speak a bit of their language, but overall, work your way in gradually if you see a woman you are interested in. Don’t be creepy, and for the love of God, don’t smother her with likes and comments (because, well, that qualifies as “creepy” and no woman likes to be stalked online).
Ask her questions, make random compliments. But don’t overdo it. If she isn’t responding, back off. The best part of Instagram is that is has such a large user base, so if you’re not getting anywhere with one woman, it’s easy to back off and try getting to know someone else.
I wish Instagram was a thing when I was still single. It would have been a lot easier for white guys like me!
DougMy name is Doug, and I'm an ordinary white guy living in the US. 10 years ago I married a Japanese woman that I met online, and it's been an adventure to say the least! I started AsiaGraphix.com as a way to share all the lessons I've learned about dating (and ultimately marrying) an Asian woman.
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