Attracting a white guy isn’t all that difficult. I know this, because I’ve been a white guy my entire life.
We are very easy to read, and we generally show our emotions in plain sight.
All it takes is a bit of casual flirting to get our attention. That’s it. We aren’t complex creatures.
If you flirt with a white guy and he doesn’t respond well to it, forget it and move on. However, if you refuse to accept defeat, keep reading…
If you want to attract a white guy, try the following 4 things:
Again, it’s important to reiterate that the advice you’re about to read is coming straight from the fingers of a white guy:
1. Be his best friend
Being shy and nervous around the white guy you’re trying to get the attention of will make things take longer.
Quit trying to be perfect. Just relax and be his friend.
Nobody’s perfect, so be your goofy self, and just have fun hanging out. If it’s meant to be, the relationship will develop naturally over time.
And who knows? Maybe once you get to know him better you’ll realize that he’s not the guy for you after all.
2. Don’t be too clingy
Nothing is more unattractive than a person who is too clingy. As a female, you’ve probably experienced this more than I ever have. Guys tend to get clingy when hanging around a girl we really like.
Pro tip: nothing will drive a guy more crazy than a girl who seems a bit distant and hard to get close to.
You don’t want to totally ignore him, but not responding to his texts immediately is sometimes fantastic way to get him starting to feel more attracted to you.
And for what it’s worth, this is the exact same advice I give to guys who want to learn how to attract Asian women. Y’all are just as repulsed by clinginess as we are.
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3. Show him that you’re interested (I mean really show it)
Even though I just recommended that it’s important not to be clingy, you do have to throw him some signs that you’re attracted to him every now and then.
- Touch his shoulder or his arm when you’re talking to him.
- Smile and laugh at everything he says (well, only the funny stuff).
- Bring him little gifts occasionally.
- Offer to lend a helping hand when he needs it.
The trick is finding the right balance between showing affection and not being clingy. Asian girls are naturally great at showing affection. Just be you!
Important: some older men have no idea that older Asian women do like white guys. In that case, you’re really going to have to make an effort to show him that you’re interested. Otherwise, it may never even cross his mind.
4. Show him that you don’t need him in order to be happy
Not only will keeping your distance drive him crazy, if he sees you going out and having fun without him, he might start feeling some form of jealousy. No matter how much he denies it, he will get jealous. I promise. White guys are weird like that.
From my perspective:
- The girls that I’ve been most attracted to were the ones who were full of life. It was the ones who were always smiling, happy, and doing things with friends and family.
- The girls that seemed incredibly distant and mysterious were the ones I lost interest in the quickest.
How realistic is it to attract a white guy if he doesn’t seem interested?
Obviously, you can’t trick somebody into liking you. A guy is either going to like you or he isn’t. Not only that, Some white guys just don’t like Asian girls. That’s not being racist BTW – it’s just the fact of life. Everybody has their own preferences.
Just like you may have some Asian friends who won’t date anybody but other Asians, some white guys only date white girls. That’s just the way it is.
My best advice is to forget about any white guy who isn’t open minded enough date an Asian girl. There are so many other white guys in the world who would be happy to be with you.
If you just put yourself out there. Have fun and live life on your terms. I guarantee that you’ll attract the attention of a charming white guy. Really!
Still have questions? Feel free to contact me for advice. As a white guy who has seen it all, I’d be happy to give you pointers.