Kissing an Asian woman vs. a western woman

By Doug •  4 min read

Here I go again trying to write about the ways of Asian women without making it sound like an ignorant fool who is painting them all with the same brush. I’m waking on eggshells here I know – and before I go any further, I think I need to make it clear that I *know* that every human being on this planet is unique and it’s a bit on the stupid side to say that “all white people are like this” or “all latinos are like that”. This article is for entertainment purposes only, though everything I am writing about is based on my own real-world experiences.

I’d also like to clarify that I’m hardly the authority when it comes to relationships and dating. My love life has been more awkward and rollercoaster-like (with lots of ups and downs and twists and turns), but I’m not so much of a neanderthal that women are repulsed by me. I’ve had my fair share of relationships, good and bad, with women from all over the world.

Anyone who has dated outside of their own culture or race knows that people are all the same underneath. We all share the same general thoughts, feelings, ways to go about life, etc. We all want to be happy. We all want to succeed. Despite our cultural differences, everyone on this planet is aiming for the same goal, and we all do things the same way – with the differences being in the little details.

One of those little details happens to be kissing. From my (admittedly limited) experience, Asian women kiss differently then a western woman does. Well to be more specific, they way they approach it is different. The actual physical act of swapping spit is the only consistent part about it.

Asian women do not like to kiss in public

Public displays of affection (besides holding hands) are virtually nonexistent in places like Korea and Japan. You just don’t see people kissing and fondling each other in public like you would in a western country like Italy, France, or Spain. Sweeping a European woman off her feet and kissing her madly in a fit of passion – in the city square – would seem like a romantic thing to do, right? As long as if you’re in Europe. Try that in Seoul or Tokyo and you may end up in a big argument instead of a passionate situation.

Asian women are more timid to begin a kiss

Again, I’m only speaking in generalities here. I’ve known Aisan woman who were super aggressive and weren’t shy at all about kissing, but for the most part, kissing in Asia is a very sensuous and private act to be taken slowly – at least at first. Asian culture is far more modest and timid than western cultures, especially when it comes to sexuality, so to all you white guys out there who are dating an Asian woman for the first time: take it slow. Unless, of course, you’ve got yourself a wild one who wants it more than you do…

Once the kiss starts, anything goes

Despite how timid Asian woman are to initiate a kiss, I’ve found that all woman are the same no matter where they are from. Every person has their own kissing technique, and I’ve actually known some Aisan women who are better kissers than western women. So you never really know what you’re going to get when you are with an Asian woman – in the end, the style and technique of her kiss depends entirely on her personality and how into you she really is.


Doug is just an ordinary white guy living in the midwestern United States. He's been married to an amazing Japanese woman since 2010, and has created to share his experiences with international dating and marriage (the good and the bad),