I (finally) figured out the differences between Japanese and Korean women

There are some fairly big differences when it comes to comparing Korean women vs Japanese women. Especially from the perspective of a typical white guy (like me).

As an “outsider,” I feel very confident saying the following:

Japanese women are easier to date than Korean women. Neither is better than the other, but the experiences are completely different IMHO.

Korean women vs Japanese women: the 4 biggest differences

My early dating years (before I fully understood the cultural differences between Japan and Korea) were disastrous to say the least.

Thankfully, I’ve learned 4 important things since then (mostly the hard way):

1. Korean women tend to be more opinionated and outspoken than Japanese women

My experience dating Asian women started in Japan. The first Japanese woman I ever met (when I was 22) was Akiko – a very modest and polite woman from Nagoya that I met on eHarmony.

Right away I was amazed by her careful and thoughtful approach to every word she wrote. A very typical trait for a Japanese woman actually. I was still culturally ignorant at that time, so Akiko became the baseline in my mind for how all Asian woman were – no matter if they were from China, Thailand, Hong Kong, etc.

That experience really screwed me up. When I met Jeong (a woman from Seoul) a short time later, I was shocked to find out that she was outgoing. Opinionated. And not afraid to tell me what she was really thinking.

At first I thought I’d found an oddity. Sure, she was very nice and sweet. But she didn’t fit the “modest Asian girl” persona I had ignorantly created in my mind.

This relationship didn’t last long. The same thing happened after meeting 2 other women from South Korea. It was then that I realized that I needed to stop thinking of women from Korea and Japan as the same.

Once I changed my way of thinking, dating Korean women was a much more pleasant experience.

2. Korean woman are far more obsessed about beauty than Japanese women

This is absolutely NOT a good thing for all of you guys out there who aren’t, shall we say, “aesthetically pleasing”.

Based on my own personal experience, the standards of what a “good looking guy” is seems to be a lot higher in Korea than it is in Japan.

I’ve seen some downright ugly white guys with beautiful Japanese women, but it’s more rare in Korea. All the white guys I see holding hands with Korean women in Korea tend to be very good looking.

Long story short: if you want to date a Korean woman, take a good look in the mirror and be honest. Are you clean (and beautiful) enough to have any shot at success?

3. Korean woman are not as willing to date outside of their own race

Japanese women appear to be more willing to date western men – and I get the sense that it’s a bit “stylish” or “cool” to have a white boyfriend.

I’m basing these assumptions on my own dating experiences, as well as looking at what I see when walking around Tokyo and Seoul. I see more “white guy boyfriends” on the streets of Tokyo than I do Seoul.

Keep in mind that everyone’s experiences are different, and the way I perceive the differences between Korean and Japanese woman may not be how you see it.

4. The sex is different

Having sex with a Japanese woman is a lot different than having sex with a Korean woman.

• Japanese women tend to be more reserved and careful, but (oddly enough) more open to the discussion of sex.
• Korean women hardly ever talk about sex (casual sex is more taboo in Korea than it is in Japan). They are usually more sexually aggressive though – and willing to try new things in the bedroom.

A final word of advice

Knowing how to tell if a Japanese woman likes you is easy. It’s a lot harder for a white guy to understand (and get the attention) of a Korean woman.

Basically, what this means is that it’s important to set realistic expectations. Don’t expect to go to Korea and easily conquer the dating scene if you’re not Korean yourself.