Before my attraction to Asian women fully bloomed, I really didn’t think that women from Asia were into white guys at all. To be honest I wasn’t even something I thought about that much, except for that one time in high school when I was thinking about hitting on that cute Filipino girl in my American History class but I was too chicken to ever try. Asian women were in a different league at that point in my life, and while I did find them attractive, I didn’t dwell on it. There were plenty of other white girls who had my attention anyway.
By the time I was in my early 20’s Asian women were the primary object of my desire and western girls didn’t even exist to me anymore. While it seemed perfectly normal back then to have such a narrow view on dating at relationships, I realize how creepy that sounds as I’m writing it out now. But stay with me for a moment. There’s a point to all this I promise.
Part of the reason I was so focused on Asian women was because of how much easier I was told it would be. I’ve always been a bit of an introvert and mustering up enough courage to approach women has never been my strong point. I’ve crashed and burned too many times to count when I was trying to court the ladies, and I’m not going to lie when I say that it was frustrating.
There was a Chinese woman at work that I had become pretty good friends with, and she made it her mission in life to hook me up with one of her Chinese girlfriends. All I kept hearing from her was how easy it would be for a white guy to meet women in China, and that all Chinese women want to date white men. I was skeptical at first, but enough pestering over the years conditioned me to believe that this was indeed true. As far as I was concerned, I would find the love of my life in China (or anywhere else in Asia) without having to lift a finger.
The next few years were pretty rough for my dating life. I fully believed that all Asian woman wanted to be with a white man, and it crushed me when I realized how much of a struggle it was to meet Asian girls. Especially here in the US. Failure after failure after failure…I wasn’t getting anywhere, and it wasn’t until I started meeting other Asian people (men and women) and actually talking to them about this subject that I realized how ignorant I had been on the subject.
Plain and simple, Asian women don’t look at white guys any differently than they would anyone else. As a matter of fact, most prefer Asian guys. That’s just the way it is. It was a difficult thing for the young early 20-something version of me to come to realize, and I’ve chalked it up as one of my most significant educational experiences of my life. It’s dangerous to paint a large group of people with a single wide brush, and it took many years of frustration and confusion to unlearn that little nugget of info and set me straight.
The most interesting thing about all this is that I still meet a lot of younger white guys today who have this same narrow-minded idea about Asian women. It may have been the case that Asian women were more attracted to white guys a long time ago, but with the technology we have today (internet, travel, etc), white people in Asia are not a big deal. It’s nothing special, and I promise you that every cutie you see on the streets of Hong Kong or Taipei are not attracted to you just because you’re white.